It was a mixed feelings and strange to many people hearing a 30-year-old Nigerian, Queen Obukoko, who grew up as a girl before learning that she has male and female sex organs sharing her story after impregnating two women and welcoming kids with them.
She grew up thinking she was like other girls, though she had a deeper voice. Also, she noticed a penis-like growth around her groin while her parents thought it was a benign growth and tried everything to “treat” it.
While narrating in an interview with media personality, Lucky Udu on Facebook, and Godfrey George in an interview published on Punch, Obukoko said she became conscious of her condition when she turned 15 and realised she could pee standing up.
According to her: “When I was young, I wasn’t conscious of my body until I clocked 15 years. One day, I was playing around with….my friends in school and became pressed, so I went to ease myself with other girls.
,,,,,“Anytime I want to ease myself, I usually feel the urge to do so through a particular genital. It could come from the female or the male side. But on that day, the urge came from the male genital.”
Obukoko recalled that as she was relieving herself, she received the biggest embarrassment of her life.
“All my friends who went to ease themselves with me called other people to look at me. They wondered how I would be standing to urinate as a woman.
“They said it was not right and something must be wrong with me. Then, a few of them,,,,,came in front of me to find out how I could stand up to ease myself. They saw that I had a penis and some of them ran away, while others looked at me in wonder.”
……She said her situation eventually made it to the internet after someone saw her peeing while standing and filmed her, noting that she became more conscious of her body after that incident and started urinating at hidden places to avoid being embarrassed.
“I changed the pattern of my dressing and started to wear big outfits. If I am pressed and have to ease myself, I look for a hidden place and stand to pee so I don’t get embarrassed. If I don’t find a hidden place, I’ll hold back the urine till I get home,” Obukoko added.
She said she also struggled to maintain romantic relationships with men as most of them, either abandoned her or began extorting money from her when they found out about her condition.
According to her, “People outside my family didn’t know I am intersex, except those I tell on my own. As for men, I get checked out but the romance doesn’t always last.”
She recalled how one man kept blackmailing her by threatening to post her nudes online if she didn’t pay him money.
,,,,,,Eventually, she decided to try relationship with women after failing at relationships with men.
This decision resulted in her dating a woman and welcoming a son with her.
However, the woman left her because she couldn’t present a woman to the world as her child’s father.
“She’s ashamed to show the world that an intersex person is the father of her child. She took the child from me and ran away. But we both know that I’m the father of the boy,” Obukoko said.
,,,,,,Asked if she still sees the child, she replied, “I see the child every three months.”
Obukoko went into a relationship with another woman and the 24-year-old gave birth to a baby girl some months ago.
However, it appears the baby girl might be intersex (hermaphrodite) too.
Obukoko said, “I’m scared to say it, this baby girl that is just a……onth old is intersex. I don’t want my child to pass through what I’m experiencing right now. We want to do surgery for her, but I’m scared.
,,,,,,,,“I’ve not made any inquiries because when the child was born, everything was confusing. The male organ was small and that was how I was. Everything my mum told me about myself is the same as the baby. I am afraid and confused right now, and I don’t know what to do.”
Though Queen Obukoko is the father of…..her kids, the older one who can talk reportedly calls her “Mummy”.
Credit Osun Reporters
