Sometimes a simple declaration of love is all we need to know that our partner is in love with us. Other times, some “unconventional” expressions can suffice and at times even surpass our love expectations.
As a Nigerian woman, I know firsthand that we have our own unique ways of showing and expressing love.
Sometimes a simple declaration of love is all we need to know that our partner is in love with us.
Other times, some “unconventional” expressions can suffice and at times even surpass our love
expectations.
As a 20 something year old, I’ve heard my fair share of creative and fun expressions of love
that can make even the “hardest girls” laugh, burst out in tears or just blush
Nigerian guys have definitely over time understood the love languages of a lot of Nigerian girls.
As someone who has been on the receiving end of some of these love expressions, I can tell
you for a fact that they’re very effective in making a woman feel properly loved and cared for.
Even though they may seem unusual to outsiders, they are a part of our culture and add an
extra layer of charm and humor to our relationships.
If you’re a Nigerian guy looking for a new and creative way to express your love, or if you’re simply curious about the unique expressions of love in Nigerian culture, then be inspired by these;
7 things a Nigerian guy can tell his Nigerian girlfriend that sounds just like an I love you
I just sent in the money
“I just sent in the money” is easily one of the favorite things you can tell any Nigerian woman.
Oh! I remember the days when it used to be “send your account number” until we discovered
there is no certainty that the money will make its way to us. There’s nothing that makes my heart skip a beat quite like hearing someone tell me they’ve sent in money to my account. It’s the literal definition of “walk the talk”.
It’s a clear indication that your partner has got your back and wants to take care of you. It also asserts him as someone who is financially responsible and can easily take care of a family.
Let me cook for you
You think food is the way to a man’s heart? Well, wait till you meet a woman that likes to eat.
And boy! We Nigerian women love to eat don’t we? A man that cooks invariably places him above other men. He makes us believe that he is genuine and intentional about us.
I know my heart practically leaps out of my chest each time my partner cooks for me.
It’s more than just the food, it’s also about the effort he’s putting in. Cooking takes time and planning, and the fact that he’s willing to do it for me shows how much he cares.
As a woman, it can be tiring to be the one responsible for cooking every meal, finding a partner who cooks for you makes you feel safe and warm. It also reassures you of his love for you.
I mean…what more could a girl want?
Do you need a new wig?
Oh! where do I even begin with this one? Thinking of a new wig already has me excited all over.Telling a Nigerian woman you bought her a wig is like singing a perfect medley of songs to her ears.
It’s a startling declaration of love that’s sure to make her feel special.
There’s not a lot of things that beats the feeling of a new wig or weave. It’s like a whole new persona, a chance to transform and reinvent yourself. When a Nigerian guy gives his woman a new wig, he’s giving her the gift of self-expression and the opportunity to feel confident and beautiful.
It’s his own way of saying, “I want to see you happy, confident, and looking your best.”
But it’s not just about the wig itself. It’s about the thought and effort that goes into getting it. It easily shows that he’s been paying attention to your style and preferences and wants to surprise her with something that will make you feel special.
Here’s the password to my phone
Ugh! Let’s face it. Sharing a phone password with your partner is a big deal. A lot of relationships have been broken thanks to snooping partners who stumbled upon things that changed the dynamics of the relationship they once knew.
When a Nigerian guy freely gives you access to his phone, it screams of love and dedication to you.
It also build trust in the relationship. It’s an easy way for them to show you that they love you and are about you and only you.
He wants you to know that he has nothing to hide, and that he values your input in his life.
Having access to your partner’s phone easily makes you feel closer to him. It’s like a subtle invitation into being part of his inner circle.
Having the password to your partner’s phone should come with responsibility. You have to respect his privacy and not abuse the trust that he has given you.
It’s more than just a gesture of love, It’s a promise to build a relationship based on trust, respect, and mutual understanding.
I’m wrong; you’re right
Tell me six words that go together, I’ll go first. Bread and butter. Yam and egg. Nigerian women and stubbornness. I know how stubborn and opinionated we can be. It’s not that we’re always right (well, maybe most of the time), but we have a strong sense of self and don’t like being told what to do.
That’s why when a guy admits that he’s in the wrong after a fight, it’s an indescribable feeling.
He acknowledges that he respects the relationship that he shares with you enough to not let it get ruined by a meaningless argument. It’s a sign of humility and maturity, which are important
qualities if you’re looking for a life long partner.
We love a guy who isn’t fixated on winning and losing. Who is ready to lose some arguments because they value you more than they like being right.
It’s not a sign of weakness – it’s a sign of love, respect and confidence.
I got you food
As a Nigerian woman, there’s nothing that warms my heart more than good food. So when my partner says “I got you food,” he speaks a soul language.
For a lot of Nigerian women, this is the truth.
There’s something ridiculously romantic about a guy that cares about your tummy. A guy that actually wants to see you fed. It’s better if the meal is eaten together.
It creates a sense of intimacy that’s hard to replicate in any other setting.
Some days, I get too busy to even think about food and in the moments my partner decides to surprise me, I can’t help but think “oh this man loves me for sure”.
Your body is perfect
We all want perfect bodies as women. But perfection is an illusion that is absolutely unattainable.
A lot of us grapple with insecurity and it is reassuring and almost emotional when your partner makes you feel beautiful.
Even when we know we are not perfect, it still feels so good to hear it.
As a Nigerian girl, I know how much pressure we face to have the perfect body type, so when your man reassures you that you’re beautiful just the way you are, it means a lot.
It’s hard not to feel loved and appreciated. It’s not just about the words he’s saying, but the message behind them – that he loves you for who you are, flaws and all.
It’s amazing how powerful words can be, especially coming from your partner. There’s no better way to let a woman know you love them than the reassurance that they’re perfect the way they are.
If you find yourself a man who can do all these and still utter those beautiful 3 letter words “I love you” then you should stitch yourself into his skin. He’s definitely a keeper.
Now if you’ll please excuse me, I’m off to call my man to tell him just how much I appreciate him… after all, he did buy me a new wig last week.
BY IFUNANYA NWANOKA
culled from AURA
